Why Mothers day hurts


When Mother’s Day isn’t all ‘Hallmark’


other’s Day Can Be Hard – But Have Hope!

For some Mother’s Day is hard. You struggle to find a card with the right words to convey the loss, rejection or pain you feel. Some have not been loved and launched well. For others, the celebration is hard to join when the pain of loss overshadows your heart. Conflict, fear or failing a child or a child currently failing you, the child who was never born or can never be. The mother who has passed, the one slipping away, the one you’re near to yet can’t be close.

We come to the Lord with our brokenness and reach out for His hand of healing.

We often come to this role ourselves lacking an example in our own lives, unsure of what a mother’s love looks or feels like and we are learning on the job. I am so thankful for women who’s lives I can imitate as they imitate Christ, thank you to those who intentionally mentor us.

To all the Godly mothers today – the Lord bless you, keep you strong in His wisdom, Spirit and prayer. You are sowing now, often thankless years, for a harvest that will surely come in due season. Your children will rise and call you blessed. May you launch them well, strong in love, high in grace, deep in God’s word. May you walk in heaven’s blessing and under its kiss as you pour your life into their destiny.

Today we connect, we have more in common that not and together in Christ we have His sure and steady promises to look to –

Psalm 27:10 (ESV)
For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in.

Ps 68:6 (NLT)
God places the lonely in families; He sets the prisoners free and gives them joy.

Rom 8:28 (Amp)
And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.

Matthew 28:20 (ESV)
I am with you always, to the end of the age.”

Proverbs 4:18 (Amp)
But the path of the just (righteous) is like the light of dawn, That shines brighter and brighter until [it reaches its full strength and glory in] the perfect day.

Isaiah 61 (NLT)
“The LORD has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to comfort the broken hearted…”

Isaiah 54:1
“Sing, O childless woman, you who have never given birth! Break into loud and joyful song, O Jerusalem, you who have never been in labor. For the desolate woman now has more children than the woman who lives with her husband,” says the LORD.

And a final promise for Mothers today from our ever present Saviour –

Isaiah 40:11
He will protect His flock like a shepherd, He will gather the lambs in His arm, He will carry them in His bosom; He will gently and carefully lead those nursing their young.

Is there someone who needs a cup of tea with you today, a kind note, flowers, a meal out? Do you need to ‘mother yourself’ and be kinder to you? Is there a woman you can turn to and learn from? I simply love the image of Jesus handing the care of His mother Mary to John at the foot of the cross, at the foot of the cross we are brought together in love, into connections we never would have otherwise made (John 19:26).

Maybe you have verses of your own and a testimony to God’s glory. Be blessed today, you are loved.

“No matter what your point of pain or challenge today, I want you to know that you are not the only one…”Jacqui Wakelam

Jacqui Wakelam - Pastoral care/Mum's Ministry

I was born in Hampshire but emigrated to Australia when I was 21 where I met and married Australian born Michael, we have wonderful 2 children, Zoe and Jonathan. Now a full time home educator to Jonathan, Zoe having graduated and gone onto Theatre Academy work. I came to know Christ in 1997 in Melbourne, Australia, in a dramatic way following the tragic suicide of a close friend. Having had no Christian influence in my life my world literally turned upside down overnight – in a good way! I have always had a deep hunger for theology and went on to study the Bible for 2 years at our local church where I worked in youth, young adult and women’s ministry, was worship director and also singer/songwriter and recording artist for the following 9 years. My husband felt the call to return to the UK after 17 years ‘Down Under’ and we have always felt the call to ministry. After arriving back here we weren’t certain where God would plant us but we wanted to be a part of a local, pioneering work. In May 2012 (approx) we met and connected with Jamie and Amy and their heart to reach out and bring the message of Salvation found in Jesus to the area, becoming members at PBC in 2013. I have served in the worship and discipleship ministry as well as local outreach initiatives the past 4 years at PBC. I am passionate about knowing Jesus and discipling others to know Him more fully, whether that is through the Christianity and Discipleship Explored course frameworks or a 1-2-1 coffee at Starbucks. I also have a heart to disciple mums and to encourage them in seeking God’s heart for motherhood, to live into their full potential as women of grace and live forward into ideals, not perfectly but consistently. I want to bring a renewed sense of hope and purpose-especially to mums who are feeling weary and over-committed.